If you lived in an environment where you were told that your abilities were limited, chances are you took this at face value. As a child the opinions you received from authority figures (parents, teachers, etc.) carried extra weight because you believed they understood the world. Naturally, you believed what they told you. Like grooves on a record, those opinions became ingrained in your mind without questioning their validity. Or maybe the authority figures in your life didn't expect much from you and over the course of your life you incorporated these lower expectations into your belief system.
As a mature person you are now in a position to challenge these assumptions. If you were told that you were not good at something specific, trace that back to its origin. Evaluate whether or not it was or is true. Rather than aligning yourself with these negative opinions and defining yourself accordingly, picture yourself at the other end of the spectrum, where you are successful.
It's not the events that occur, but the way we interpret them that shapes who we believe we are and who we believe we will become. It's not what happens to you but what you do with what happens to you that matters.
Whelan Stone Executive Search and Coaching